1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want
you,
nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave
him
alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant
to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat
a
friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith
make
you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as
a BIG
sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like
that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a
whole
lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any
differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers
you,
speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the
situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move
on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how
he
treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental
abuse. If
he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow
himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even
if he
has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted
to
what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right
away and
if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt
you
and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' he next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of
the
#1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone
unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone
unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a
two
way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complementary...not
supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to
the
actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end
it -
but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you
there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for
you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and
you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure
him to
spend time with you. You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that
you
need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs,
personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
